No, we’re not talking about that kind of mirror. We’re actually talking about mirroring. Mirroring is a form of body language where we copy what the other person is doing. When we like and trust someone, we often do it without realizing.
According to this article published in Scientific American, mirroring each other triggers a part of our brains that encourages empathy.
According to Forbes contributor, Carol Kinsey Goman, mirroring is both an art and a science. Goman is an expert on body language as the author of over 300 related articles and several books including “The Nonverbal Advantage: Body Language at Work,” & “The Silent Language of Leaders: How Body Language Can Help – or Hurt – How You Lead.”
Goman explains a simple way to use this trick. When talking with someone, watch what they do and mimic it slightly. If they lean back in their chair, you should also lean back. If they lean in or set their arms on the table, wait a moment and lean forward as well. If you’re good at it and can do it discreetly, you might even consider matching up your breathing. Feel like its not be working? Change your pose. If they mirror you, it shows they trust you and believe you. What if they don’t mirror you? Then keep mirroring them, just make sure you aren’t mimicking them exactly. Keep it natural.
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